I seem to favor age gap relationships, not so much on the level of Woody Allen and Soon Yi (35 years), more so on the level of Taylor Swift and Harry Styles (4 years). I know, they didn’t make it, but the age gap was still there. I met my last boyfriend when I was 19 and he was newly minted 17 year old, we started dating and broke up 9 months later. My current boyfriend is 2.5 years younger and we started dating when I was 21 and he 18. However, I didn’t actually know he was younger until we had known each other a few months, which brings me to point number one:
- Age is just a number, as long as nobody acts like said number. If he acts 16 and you act 45, there’s going to be some hardships with communicating. Some effort to reach the other person will have to be made. This can be an issue in relationships where both parties are close in age too, it’s all about maturity.
- Law, numbers aside, the term “jail bait” is real. You don’t want to be caught in a situation where “they said they were 18.” Definitely use your brain.
- Communication hurdles, age gap could be just a few months all the way up to several decades apart. Your upbringing shapes your interests and how you approach issues. These occur in every relationship, but in age gap relationships it seems more common.
- Common Interests, just like any relationship if you don’t have any links between activities, hobbies or interests it’s hard to make it past “how was your day” in conversations.
Couples in 30 year age gap relationships are 172% more likely to divorce, according to a recent study by Emory University.
On the other hand, length of relationship also plays a role, couples with 5 years together are 76% less likely to get divorced.
I think as long as you and your significant other have similar maturity levels, common interests and are able to communicate effectively age is just a number.
What do you readers think, how much is too much of an age gap?